Tahnya Brown
Author of Blurred, a memoir about caregiving, family, and what happens to us through life's changes.
She writes and speaks about the emotional toll of caregiving and the quiet ways it reshapes identity.
Your strength doesn't have to be silent. Being capable doesn’t mean you should carry everything alone. Asking for help is not weakness; it's wisdom.
You can find yourself again. Identity doesn’t vanish. It waits. Finding yourself again takes time, and it’s rarely linear, but it is possible.
This experience has value beyond the loss. Caregiving teaches you about limits, love, and what’s essential. Those lessons stay with you and are part of who you're becoming.
1,447
Days of Caregiving
If you’ve ever been the one everyone counts on, the person who holds it all together while slowly disappearing, you know this weight.
Day by day, you care for someone you love while pieces of yourself quietly fall away. You wonder how much longer you can do this. You keep going anyway, because there’s no one else.
And then one day, it’s over.
The caregiving ends. The house gets quieter. And you’re left standing in the aftermath, realizing you don’t know who you are anymore. What you like. What you want. You gave everything. Now you’re wondering where you went.
I spent 1,447 days caring for my father.
This is what those days taught me.