Blurred

When caregiving erases the life you thought you knew, how do you find your way back?

Tahnya’s father was kind and intelligent, a man who taught her to be curious, to speak up, and never back down. When Alzheimer’s begins stealing him piece by piece, she makes a promise that will cost her everything: he will never suffer alone.

What follows is a four-year journey through a healthcare system that grinds families down, a marriage strained under quiet pressure, and the slow disappearance of the woman she used to be.

Blurred is the story no one tells you about caregiving—the middle-of-the-night terror, the locked doors, the crushed pills hidden in ice cream, the quiet wish that his suffering would finally end. It's about loving someone fiercely while resenting the toll it takes. About holding everything together while vanishing inside the effort.

But it's also about what happens after. About grief that arrives as relief. About rebuilding from rubble. About giving yourself permission to want more than survival.

Written with honesty and tenderness, Blurred speaks to the women who have carried too much for too long. To the daughters who became nurses. To the wives watching their marriages thin under the strain. To anyone who has looked in the mirror and barely recognized the person staring back.

This is a caregiving memoir that names the quiet parts out loud.

It is a story about love and exhaustion. About anger and relief. About surviving something that reshapes you.

And about the slow work of returning to yourself.